I’ve been engaged for twelve days

And we have a date set, the location and the deposit down, caterer, our photographer, and now…a wedding dress!!

I had no idea that this whole weddin’ plannin’ stuff was so INVOLVED with lots of DECISIONS.

I had already decided that I would say yes if Scott asked me to marry him, because we were talking about marriage, we knew this was right. And after so much in our lives, and so much hesitancy to get married again on both our parts, it’s really amazing to just say, “My god, I love this person so much and I am already his partner, of course we should signify that with a ceremony of something.” There’s no pressure, no other influences, just happy. I just didn’t know last weekend was going to be the weekend he proposed.

So when he suggested we go to Memphis for the weekend, I was all in. It’s something we usually do several times a year and we love it there. He said, let’s get the Peabody Hotel…great! lets! And then we drive to Memphis, check in, and chill out a bit in our room, and then he says, “So, I got you a present.”

I’m like, “Oh! That’s so nice!” And I’m thinking, awww, he brought me our favorite candy bar.

Instead it was a ring. A GORGEOUS ring with super sparkly pavé diamonds on either side of a beautiful solitaire that suited me perfectly. And a loving, handsome man asking me to marry him. Yes!

My second decision was that I was absolutely going to wear a fascinator. Oh yes I am. My new girl child, his daughter, already has hers picked out :)

Next came all the rest. Holy moly, we have to think of so many details for a SMALL wedding. I haven’t even considered them all and I’m overwhelmed. But it’s a pretty happy problem to have, no?

11 Responses to “I’ve been engaged for twelve days”

  1. Christy Says:

    When you think about it, the only difference between a small wedding and a big wedding is the number of guests. And that doesn’t require planning as much as it requires managing.

    I loved planning my wedding. It was maybe even more fun than the wedding itself.

    Did you have the whole wedding shebang the first time around?

  2. jennster Says:

    CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! this is exciting and let me know if you need any help with ideas, places, or where to buy shit online! lol

  3. Melissa Says:

    Christy, you are totally right. It’s the same kind of planning! I sort of did, but it wasn’t really planned by me. This time, it’s all US baby!

    Jennster, thank you!!!! YES, I want to know where to buy shit. I also want to know what you WISHED you knew before :)

  4. daisybones Says:

    You are going to be GORGEOUS, you glam goddess:) Am over the moon for you!

  5. Melissa Says:

    I’m hoping for not sweaty and not crying! That’s my hope for gorgeous!

    Thank you!!!

  6. MotherOfBun Says:

    Oh woman! I am so happy for you. Am gettin goosebumps. So HAPPY FOR YOU. So happy you are happy and in love. And that its healthy and right. And he is obviously a totally smart man with great taste in women. (Or should I say “woman.” heehee.)

    CONGRATS.

    (Hey, I wanna feature you on our new blog about parents in St.L. Can I feature you? Won’t include your last name. Just a paragraph on why we love reading you. If that’s not ok, let me know.)

  7. MotherOfBun Says:

    Oh and new site is http://www.stlfamilylife.com if you want to check it out first. (I’ve sort of abandoned Midwestern Mommy. Hubby’s co-workers, my parents’ coworkers, the parents of son’s classmates, and some other peeps were reading and I started to realize I had to watch very carefully what I posted. And it turns out I can post very little.)

  8. Melissa Says:

    Lisa, thank you!!!

    And I KNEW something like that was up with your blog, because you are amazing and you had just sort of stopped. I just get busy and distracted, but you are better than me on these things.

    I’d be honored to be featured on your new blog!!

  9. Christy Says:

    I will say this: planning the wedding yourself will bring far less stress than if other people (like mothers) are involved.

  10. Oh, The Joys Says:

    Congratulations!! Well done!

    Thanks for the e-mail awhile back. I have been in the weeds and remiss about being a good replier. Oh, woe! It was great to hear from you and this is fantastic news!!

  11. thrice Says:

    I disappear for awhile and, just WOW! Congratulations!

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