In sum, the marriage is over. Total shit hitting the fan, mud-slinging commencing.
It’s horrible.
Thank you for all your kind comments and some day, hopefully soon, I can send out batches of super chocolate chunk cookies to each of you. Thank you so much.
Anytime you’re ready to fire off that e-mail full of bad words, you just go on ahead and do it.
I’m ready for it. And it doesn’t even have to make sense, it can be just a whole e-mail full of swears, okay?
I am standing by.
(((You)))
I just felt all my air come whooshing out, leaving me breathless. I am SO sorry to hear this. I was really rooting for you guys to make it. Please know that I’m thinking of you and hoping for the best for you. (((Melissa)))
Oh, Melissa, I’m so sorry to hear this. I too, was pulling for you guys.
Stay strong and try to keep a positive outlook.
Go curl up with the boys and a small pint of ice cream.
Melissa I just found you through CUSS, and I adore Suzanne and her writing so I’ll say more than I might to a random newly-discovered blog. Marriage is the hardest fucking thing in the world and marriage with children is fucking insane. Have some compassion for yourself.
Thank you so very much for writing - it makes it easier for other gals to be honest.
Been there…still there, four years later…ouch. Just not into “starting over” while my son is still here with only me! Dresden Dolls definitely help, tho!! I found your site through The Happy Feminist. I guess we’re not always happy…! I love your post on reclaiming the word feminist. I have a space, Feminuclear, but no idea how to start a blog. I mean, technically.
Hang in there. It never goes away (because of the kids) but it does get…better…altho better’s not quite the word for it.
Marriage issues are hard. Things are ok at my house these days but it is a precarious situation that could always fall apart at any minute. All it would take is my wife remembering how not-Mormon I am these days to make it all come crashing in.
November 6th, 2006 at 8:29 pm
Oh, that really sucks. I am very, very sorry.
November 6th, 2006 at 8:36 pm
please hang in there. all my best to you
November 6th, 2006 at 8:39 pm
sooo very sorry - how about we send YOU some cookies?
November 6th, 2006 at 8:44 pm
I’m so sorry. You.
November 6th, 2006 at 8:55 pm
Oh, I am really, really sorry.
November 6th, 2006 at 9:58 pm
Uh…
Well…
Oh, Fuck.
November 7th, 2006 at 12:44 am
Sending you hugs. My heart hurts for you.
November 7th, 2006 at 1:00 am
Oh, Melissa. I’m so sorry. Hang in there and let me know if I can do anything.
November 7th, 2006 at 1:57 am
Anytime you’re ready to fire off that e-mail full of bad words, you just go on ahead and do it.
I’m ready for it. And it doesn’t even have to make sense, it can be just a whole e-mail full of swears, okay?
I am standing by.
(((You)))
November 7th, 2006 at 7:40 am
I just felt all my air come whooshing out, leaving me breathless. I am SO sorry to hear this. I was really rooting for you guys to make it. Please know that I’m thinking of you and hoping for the best for you. (((Melissa)))
November 7th, 2006 at 8:54 am
Oh, Melissa, I’m so sorry to hear this. I too, was pulling for you guys.
Stay strong and try to keep a positive outlook.
Go curl up with the boys and a small pint of ice cream.
November 7th, 2006 at 9:38 am
Fuckity fuck. I’m so very sorry.
November 7th, 2006 at 4:02 pm
That just sucks. I am so sorry. You need cookies now….
November 7th, 2006 at 8:28 pm
I could use some cookies too. And anything else that you want to send my way.
November 8th, 2006 at 10:27 am
Oh, I am so sorry. I nth the suggestion that we send you cookies rather than the other way around.
November 9th, 2006 at 9:30 am
Melissa I just found you through CUSS, and I adore Suzanne and her writing so I’ll say more than I might to a random newly-discovered blog. Marriage is the hardest fucking thing in the world and marriage with children is fucking insane. Have some compassion for yourself.
Thank you so very much for writing - it makes it easier for other gals to be honest.
November 10th, 2006 at 2:39 am
So, so sorry to hear this.
November 13th, 2006 at 5:28 am
Melissa,
Been there…still there, four years later…ouch. Just not into “starting over” while my son is still here with only me! Dresden Dolls definitely help, tho!! I found your site through The Happy Feminist. I guess we’re not always happy…! I love your post on reclaiming the word feminist. I have a space, Feminuclear, but no idea how to start a blog. I mean, technically.
Hang in there. It never goes away (because of the kids) but it does get…better…altho better’s not quite the word for it.
November 16th, 2006 at 5:10 pm
Marriage issues are hard. Things are ok at my house these days but it is a precarious situation that could always fall apart at any minute. All it would take is my wife remembering how not-Mormon I am these days to make it all come crashing in.
Hang in there. You’ll make it.