I just emailed this poem to my hubby (who has been pissing me off lately). and I think it rings true in your case also. (If I’m wrong, you can ban my IP)
You two sound like you have a deep and true love. I sincerely hope that you can work your way through this rough patch.
There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
No disease that enough love will not heal;
No door that enough love will not open;
No gulf that enough love will not bridge;
No wall that enough love will not throw down;
No sin that enough love will not redeem …
It makes no difference how deeply seated may be the trouble,
How hopeless the outlook,
How muddled the tangle,
How great the mistake, –
A sufficient realization of love will dissolve
it all …
If only you could love enough, you would be the happiest and
most powerful being in the world.
I love you, Melissa. And I want you to know it’s not just my PMS making me say “I love you” to a person on the Internet when it’s hard for me to say those words IRL at all except to my kids. I really do care. And I am sitting here all tear-eyed for you and just pushing at the Universe with all my will to make it do the right thing and make things work out for you.
Keep on keepin’ on. And yes I did have that trucker hat. Why?
It is not backwards at all. I really think it is a mature, thoughtful way of working on your marriage. You’re not giving in and you’re not abandoning it. You’re letting it breathe.
Adam and I took a 7 month hiatus from each other back in 2000. If we hadn’t done that we would not be together now. We did exactly what you said- learned how to talk to each other again. We decided that for us to get back together and stay together, we could no longer do those crazy things we were doing (me: the yelling, him: not be passive-aggressive). So, we took the plunge and to be honest, it really is the thing that saved us. We went from arguing (those HUGE arguments) 2-3 times per week to 2-3 times per year.
So, I just wanted to share with you an example of how taking some time can help. Not backwards at all- very smart.
October 13th, 2006 at 3:03 pm
Melissa,
I just emailed this poem to my hubby (who has been pissing me off lately). and I think it rings true in your case also. (If I’m wrong, you can ban my IP)
You two sound like you have a deep and true love. I sincerely hope that you can work your way through this rough patch.
There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
No disease that enough love will not heal;
No door that enough love will not open;
No gulf that enough love will not bridge;
No wall that enough love will not throw down;
No sin that enough love will not redeem …
It makes no difference how deeply seated may be the trouble,
How hopeless the outlook,
How muddled the tangle,
How great the mistake, –
A sufficient realization of love will dissolve
it all …
If only you could love enough, you would be the happiest and
most powerful being in the world.
– Emmet Fox
October 13th, 2006 at 3:27 pm
Wishing you time, quiet, deep breaths and restored fondness for each other.
October 13th, 2006 at 4:31 pm
I love you, Melissa. And I want you to know it’s not just my PMS making me say “I love you” to a person on the Internet when it’s hard for me to say those words IRL at all except to my kids. I really do care. And I am sitting here all tear-eyed for you and just pushing at the Universe with all my will to make it do the right thing and make things work out for you.
Keep on keepin’ on. And yes I did have that trucker hat. Why?
October 15th, 2006 at 8:09 am
It is not backwards at all. I really think it is a mature, thoughtful way of working on your marriage. You’re not giving in and you’re not abandoning it. You’re letting it breathe.
Adam and I took a 7 month hiatus from each other back in 2000. If we hadn’t done that we would not be together now. We did exactly what you said- learned how to talk to each other again. We decided that for us to get back together and stay together, we could no longer do those crazy things we were doing (me: the yelling, him: not be passive-aggressive). So, we took the plunge and to be honest, it really is the thing that saved us. We went from arguing (those HUGE arguments) 2-3 times per week to 2-3 times per year.
So, I just wanted to share with you an example of how taking some time can help. Not backwards at all- very smart.
October 16th, 2006 at 1:57 pm
Wishing you all the best of peace, quiet, breathing, and energy to get you through this to happiness.