Google Smackdown Monday
Dear reader who found my site whilst googling, “I want to get pregnant before 18,”
No, you don’t.
Really, no.
Fucking stop hanging out with that creepy older guy who just leers at your tits because, dude, if that asshat knocks you up you have to deal with him FOREVER.
Did you hear me?
Forever.
You will have to watch as he dates, knocks up, and marries women who look like you did at 15. You will have to talk to him every other weekend so he can tell you about the latest dumbass decision. You will have to fight with him about how he allows your child to watch horror movies at age 5. He will call you at 4 am to tell you he still loves you. You will have to hear him hit on you, pathetically. You will have to argue about child support. Most importantly, you will have to watch him drag your starving, filthy, exhausted children back home on Sundays so you can feed them their weight in good food, bathe them thoroughly, and put them to bed at 5:00 pm.
This is when things go well.
When things don’t turn out so great, you will deal with the horrors related to an absent father, absent child support, possible abuse, poverty, and kids who have to handle this life without understanding why it happened.
You do not want to be a teen mom. Go to college first. Find your passion first.
Even if you do not pursue a career, you have educated yourself to be a critical thinker. This will help you be a more able, more prepared mama. If you find your passion before kids, you are a much more interesting, cooler mom. You need to be able to pay for housing, food, bills, clothing, and all the other things involved with being a real adult with a dependent. This, this is hard.
This does not mean it’s impossible to do it otherwise, I did it. Christine and Lindy are doing it. We love our kids tremendously. But we can all agree that it would have much, much, much easier if we had not been young moms.
Don’t you want to give them your best?
Make it happen. Wait. Make yourself the most important thing in your life right now. Birth control is your friend.
Sincerely,
Melissa
February 28th, 2006 at 4:52 pm
Well said! I can’t even imagine what that was like. I didn’t even feel ready to be a mom at 26, let alone trying to do at as a teen.
And that would completely eat at me — not knowing what the father of my children is doing with them while he has them for the weekend. You don’t know what sort of women are around the kids and what sort of other kids may be around them either. You just don’t know what they are being exposed to. And then there’s that whole child support thing too. Oy.
Great letter! If there’s someone out there that’s very young thinking about getting pregnant, I hope they listen to you.
December 23rd, 2007 at 10:18 pm
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